Getting through life in your 20s can be difficult, especially when attempting to maintain a relationship! In our 20s, there are so many changes that happen and big decisions that are made. It is a time for self-exploration and trying to find our place in the world. That is why sustaining a relationship during this period can be tricky. Here are 10 Musts for Love in Your 20s to keep your relationship strong as you both grow.
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10 Musts for Love in Your 20s
1.Keep it Private
In this digital age where everyone posts everything on social media, you should be cautious of what you share about your relationship online. People will be happy to see you smiling with your special someone, but don’t overshare anything too intimate or too often like a make out session photo every day. Save the cherished special moments for the two of you. This is just as important when it comes to negative aspects of the relationship. Don’t air your dirty laundry in a social media post every time you get into a fight. It can escalate the situation and affect the way people view your relationship or see it as an invitation to voice their opinion.
2. Keep Up Your Friendships
Your romantic relationship is not the only one you need to focus on maintaining! Friendships and even family relationships are an extremely important part of life and you can’t just forget about that because you’re in a relationship. It’s important to have a balance. Make time for the people who were there for you before your partner came into your life. You can plan a night out with your closest friends or have a specific night of each week to spend with your respective loved ones. It is a good idea for your significant other to be involved sometimes as well and enjoy spending time with the people you care about, and vice-versa.
3. Date Time!
Your 20s can be very fast-paced with so many things going on in all aspects of your life. From school or work to hanging out with friends and keeping up with your hobbies, there isn’t a lot of time left over. Making time to hang out with your special someone for a specified date night at least once or twice a month is so important. Try to go out and do something fun or plan something out of your ordinary routine that you can do at home, like a nice meal you prepared together. You can even be more adventurous and have fun with each other doing an exciting activity. Plan dates where you can experience the world before you have too many responsibilities. Whatever you do, disconnect from technology and give each other your full attention to show how much you care about each other and keep your connection strong.
4. Be Open with Your Expectations
People have different expectations and hopes for their relationships. It’s important to be upfront about what you are looking for when starting out a relationship with someone. Whether you are looking for a long term thing or a more causal relationship, you should let the other person know how you’re feeling before getting too serious. If the two of you can be honest and open about what you want, you can make sure you’re on the same page. And if you aren’t, then that can be a good opportunity to walk away. It will save you both a lot of heart break if you stay together for months and then realize you don’t have the same expectations. Being upfront can also gain you a lot of mutual respect, not matter how the situation turns out.
5. Don’t Try to Change Each Other
When it is natural to grow and change in some aspects when you’re in a relationship, it’s very important to be ourselves. As important as is it to stay true to yourself, you also want to extend that same courtesy to your significant other and not try to change them. It can be nice to embrace each other’s positive and negative aspects. You care about each other for a reason, so just keep remembering that.
6. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.
No, writing that three times was not a typo! One of the most important aspects of any relationship is communication, especially when it comes to a significant other. Talk to your partner whenever you can and make it part of your routine. Share day to day things but also the important stuff, like what you are stressed about, what your goals are, and anything that might be bothering you within your relationship. As important as is it to share, make sure your partner is doing the same and that you are actually listening to them.
7. Trust, But Not Blindly
Another one of the most important aspects to a successful relationship is trust. It can be easy to break trust in so many ways, but once it it’s violated, it can be almost impossible to gain back. You might be tempted to look into your partner’s phone or social media messages and snoop around. That can be a sign that you don’t fully trust them and if you go through with snooping, whether you find something negative or not, it will cause them to lose trust in you. This goes back to communication – be open and honest with any concerns you have and try to continue building trust with one another. You are more likely to gain/regain trust if you are honest and don’t lie.
Thanks for reading our 10 Musts for Love in Your 20s! Most people can agree that relationships aren’t easy. There is a lot of work that goes into successful relationships, especially in your 20s. However, if you keep these tips in mind, they might help make them easier to manage and enjoyable, as relationships should be as well!
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